Sakshi Education
-An Article By Shachi Maheshwari
It is always an experience to interact with the peer, superior and subordinate groups. All the three groups of people give a different feel and learning, when we interact with them. All the three groups are important and very much existent in all areas of life. Whether it is family, office, friends, mentors, teachers, bosses, acquaintances, etc, all of them are typically divided into three categories.
Peers:
The first category will always be peers because we respond and reciprocate to them very easily and very firstly. They are typically the same level as us either in intelligent quotient or status or family structure or in any other way at par with us. We normally tend to be comfortable with them in terms of talking and interacting. One more reason of a person being comfortable with peers is they have similar problems and they empathize very well with each other. For example colleagues in office, friends, cousins, acquaintances, social circles, etc.
Superiors:
The second category is superiors. The teachers, mentors, bosses, family, etc generally fall in this category. They are the ones who are higher than us as far as the knowledge or experience or intellect quotient or relationship goes. They expect a certain kind of respectful treatment from us, while we deal with them. We normally tend to take time to interact with them directly; more so, particularly because they also have an expectation barrier to break first with us. They are the ones from whom you learn effortlessly because we know that they know more than us. For example uncles, aunts, bosses, bosses of bosses, mentors, aged consultants, senior positions in any way, etc.
Subordinates:
The third category opens up the scope of being a mentor to others, as well as taking work from them or helping them to cope up. They are lesser either by age, experience, knowledge or relationship and that’s why we feel good dealing with them and sometimes even show them off our seniority. They are the ones who need our reciprocation for their growth but still our responses to them are important; if we have to take work from them or they are in our social circles or fall in as a team to achieve targets in professional fronts.
The reason why I do not put parents in any of these categories is that they change roles based on phases. For a child they may act as a mentor but for an adolescent they need to treat him as a peer. While the children cross their thirties they are better off than the parents sometimes. They tend to support the parents and parents act as a subordinate at times for the areas they are less aware in today’s fast changing world. It’s not difficult to accept a fact in today’s scenario that the children know much more than parents. What they await is just the additional opinion on experiences from parents and that too has been made so simple due to Wikipedia and Google.
Now you will ask:
Why is it so important to maintain a rapport or relationship with all the three?
How can a person be balanced in the eyes of all the three?
What is in there for us to put in so much effort for the responses to them and interactions with them?
All the three categories give us immense scope to grow as an individual. Learning to respond to all three is critical to our standing at all times.
Three golden rules to these three categories are:
Learning to respond to each of the categories is an art, as the requirements are different. Some teachers still remember their good students. Some bosses still remember their good subordinate pals and offer them good opportunities at job and otherwise. Some peers help as friends when they are somewhere else and when they meet up after a long time. Some subordinates always remember our contribution to their growth and show their respect, if they are in a position or we need any help in future.
Always the responses we make decides whether we are in favor of building up genuine relationships or otherwise; and relationships always go a long way because—
Life is a full round circle and what goes around always comes around; so make the most of it in all spheres of life by choosing your responses positively to all your peers, superiors and subordinates!!
Peers:
The first category will always be peers because we respond and reciprocate to them very easily and very firstly. They are typically the same level as us either in intelligent quotient or status or family structure or in any other way at par with us. We normally tend to be comfortable with them in terms of talking and interacting. One more reason of a person being comfortable with peers is they have similar problems and they empathize very well with each other. For example colleagues in office, friends, cousins, acquaintances, social circles, etc.
Superiors:
The second category is superiors. The teachers, mentors, bosses, family, etc generally fall in this category. They are the ones who are higher than us as far as the knowledge or experience or intellect quotient or relationship goes. They expect a certain kind of respectful treatment from us, while we deal with them. We normally tend to take time to interact with them directly; more so, particularly because they also have an expectation barrier to break first with us. They are the ones from whom you learn effortlessly because we know that they know more than us. For example uncles, aunts, bosses, bosses of bosses, mentors, aged consultants, senior positions in any way, etc.
Subordinates:
The third category opens up the scope of being a mentor to others, as well as taking work from them or helping them to cope up. They are lesser either by age, experience, knowledge or relationship and that’s why we feel good dealing with them and sometimes even show them off our seniority. They are the ones who need our reciprocation for their growth but still our responses to them are important; if we have to take work from them or they are in our social circles or fall in as a team to achieve targets in professional fronts.
The reason why I do not put parents in any of these categories is that they change roles based on phases. For a child they may act as a mentor but for an adolescent they need to treat him as a peer. While the children cross their thirties they are better off than the parents sometimes. They tend to support the parents and parents act as a subordinate at times for the areas they are less aware in today’s fast changing world. It’s not difficult to accept a fact in today’s scenario that the children know much more than parents. What they await is just the additional opinion on experiences from parents and that too has been made so simple due to Wikipedia and Google.
Now you will ask:
Why is it so important to maintain a rapport or relationship with all the three?
How can a person be balanced in the eyes of all the three?
What is in there for us to put in so much effort for the responses to them and interactions with them?
All the three categories give us immense scope to grow as an individual. Learning to respond to all three is critical to our standing at all times.
Three golden rules to these three categories are:
- Be a good peer, only then you will be in a position to build up long term relationships for coming days. A good peer is one who values opinion of another peer helps him out when the other one needs and be a good pal who is genuinely interested in other person’s growth.
- Be a good superior, only then you will be respected for what you do, by your juniors and appreciated as a team leader. A good superior takes a team to a new height and thereby take the organization and family to highs and achieve targets which are very difficult.
- Be a good subordinate, only then you can enhance the credit of your bosses, mentors which in turn will add to lot of credit to your standing. A good subordinate is one on whom the boss or family can rely on for whatever is given to finish and who gives unbiased opinions and is helpful in decision making with his genuine interest of his superior’s progress.
Learning to respond to each of the categories is an art, as the requirements are different. Some teachers still remember their good students. Some bosses still remember their good subordinate pals and offer them good opportunities at job and otherwise. Some peers help as friends when they are somewhere else and when they meet up after a long time. Some subordinates always remember our contribution to their growth and show their respect, if they are in a position or we need any help in future.
Always the responses we make decides whether we are in favor of building up genuine relationships or otherwise; and relationships always go a long way because—
Life is a full round circle and what goes around always comes around; so make the most of it in all spheres of life by choosing your responses positively to all your peers, superiors and subordinates!!
 Author: Shachi Maheshwari You may reach the author at shachimg@yahoo.com |
Published date : 18 Nov 2017 04:40PM
